I once known a young woman who worked two jobs while her boyfriend or guy she was engaged to sat at home and just drank beer all day long. He refused to work. He was the biggest freeloader there was. Her boyfriend found it and spent it all in one night at the bar buying everyone drinks and this was not his money. This was money that she worked for and earned. Male or Female you my friend are the weakest link.
Your comment, right there! Who can blame him? He has a biological imperative that makes him want to spread his seed. We, on the other hand, have a biological imperative to find one committed person and to become an incubator for 9 months.
Baby fever is real! So why would you, when you can manage yourself and see all kinds of women? How unfortunate, lol! I am writing this comment with tears of joy. My marriage fell apart after 6 months because my mother In-law asked my husband to divorce me and marriage the woman she betroth to him as his wife.
All this drama started happening in our marriage and my husband left me and our one month baby just so he could do as his mom wants him to. But for a man to do what yours did, means for you to look at any, however minute you may see it as a means to his action. Six months into the marriage and you have a child may come across as you trying to trap or in a marriage box him in.
The next go around, I suggest you not try to compete with a mother, force or box in a man. Because what goes around comes around. Tears of Joy, I hope so because you should be second to none. Divorce is not easy and now he will share his earnings with you forever and new wife will not forget that. Less to go around, good for you now find things in life that make you really happy. A lot of these women will just grow very very old all alone with a bunch of cats when their time comes anyway.
Have a lot of fun with your cats ladies, you certainly deserve it. Nothing is written in stone. You might end up in a ditch for any reason and need a therapy cat to get better. Going on Tinder is always illuminating for the number of unattached old men, with their sagging, wrinkled faces and pot bellies, desperately lying about their age and trying to appeal to increasingly fewer numbers of presentable women.
Either that, or they marry some plain girl and try to cheat as often as possible although that becomes pretty hit or miss as even the skanks avoid them after a certain age. I always wonder what happens when these 50 somethings hit 60 or even 70 and contemplate their future in the nursing home. They will probably turn into that cantankerous old goat that all the staff put off dealing with til last, the notorious one that they all laugh about for being so selfish and annoying.
Personally, I think that a future with cats is a lot better than a carer ignoring that your bottom has been needing wiped for 3 days, because no-one is paid enough money to do that.
Not for you at least…. But like men looking for the attractive or going for the charming woman speaks the same for women with their superficial desires for men also. Which means it takes two to tangle and it takes a whore for a man to be a dog. Women screw around just as much as men, and we cannot do so without a woman unless that man or woman prefers the opposite sex. Me, I only prefer and seek the opposite sex therefore one is no better than the other seeking satisfaction, looks and preferences whenever they can.
Nowadays there are so many low life loser Gold Digging women everywhere to begin with, and they really need to get a real job and stop living off older men with money. Often cats are better companions than grumpy old men who have sexual issues. We can support ourselves and with diet, exercise but if botox we still look pretty hot.
But if you actually do, then why not try? Why bother? Well we KNOW the result of not bothering. But the only way to find out is to try. When you went after degrees and jobs you must have been prepared for possible rejections. And you modified your course and continued on. This is no different, I feel.
Some might argue the worst thing would be getting into a relationship with the wrong person. They have a point. Communication is key. Best to you. Dating was bad then and even worse now. I hear alot of horror stories that women are going after men who dont respect women at all.
It great that Paul chooses not to get involve with the drama of dating world. Women needs to wise up and learn before being used up. Paul, you sound like you have it together. Paul, I would like to meet with you. I will not carry this automatic reject button you sadly think all women carry. Wanda wants to meet with you, Paul. Gee, I wonder if your mention of status had anything to do with her decision? You should claim to hate the people you seem to hate.
You sound amazing. You just need a woman who is not superficial. Maybe your just interested in the wrong kind of woman. Get out there Paul. Swing dancing is the best place. Trust me, after a few weeks, one of them is going to resonate with you. I agree. I have a friend who goes dancing every week and he has someone new at least every two weeks. Sadly your situation is not uncommon. Success in life does not equate to success in love.
In fact successful guys might seem boring whereas deadbeat losers are exciting…they are always in trouble, hitting up their women for money. Women thrive on chaos and drama and that is what these losers provide. Rosa, with the kind of very horrible women that are everywhere these days really tells the whole story. You can fool average people with luxurious items but not intelligent women who are already well established, they want somebody who make them feel alive which is pretty much the opposite of being successful nowaday.
Something beautiful is something free and the money slavery is everywhere. My father was verry successful financialy real estate promoter and the richer he became the more miserable his life was, he had plenty of expensive toys but he was surrounded by cock suckers who were waiting for crumble to fall off his plate.
Clap Clap Quaddam. I see if often. Success and Money brings in fake friends who only want to post pics and name drop that they are part of your circle while talking behind your back. Trust is a huge issue for me. Paul I am a guy about the same age as you in the same boat and I myself have multiple degrees, own a nice car, own 3 properities, debt free, high credit score, one of which is in the largest city in America.
Or some girl with hair weird hair colors. The ONLY thing I desire from a girl is she is feminine, fit, sweet, kinky, and loves to travel and do outdoor things. Whether she cooks, honestly I am better at cooking than most girls but it would help. Paul if it makes you feel any better your not alone. I am 35 years old and still single too. I am fairly good looking, well educated, and have a good paying job but no woman seems to want me.
Whatever happened to the women in the past that most of them at the time were real ladies and the very complete opposite of today altogether?
Today they really are just so very awful. Women who sleep around are the ones men treat like treasure. They go out with deadbeat losers because those are the only guys who ask them out. Smart men wrote women off a long time ago. We are so much better off without them. I have said this once and I will say it again. If you are a woman who is looking for a long term, committed relationship partner with a man that leads to marriage, the first step in that process is to tell the man you are dating that while sex is important to you in a relationship, you do not engage in heavy physical intimacy with a man until there is not only commitment in the relationship, but a high level of trust, communication, and emotional intimacy.
No exceptions. Anyone who pressures you beyond that is history. Any player is going to dump you immediately if you draw this line because he knows that there are other girls who are more gullible. He may not wait until marriage, but he will wait until at least the relationship has some sort of foundation. Besides, the key to having great sex in a long term relationship is communication. You have to talk about sex in great detail, and many people like myself are not comfortable doing this with someone I do not know well.
I really believe that couples having sex to soon in the dating process is responsible for a great deal of the divorces in this society. It is not a moral thing. It can do everything from giving you an orgasm, to giving you a STD to creating an baby. I am not suggesting wait until after marriage to have sex.
I have to disagree with you here. If the woman had prior history of having sex then the woman would have alot to prove. Truest is very important in any relationship.
If the woman really wanted commitment then it would be best for the woman to remain virgin to show the man that she actually respects herself. In US, we live in a very conservative society. I have to disagree with you in line of about any player would dump the woman. Respectful good guys would dump women who dont respect herself and serious about the commitment in relationship. Besides who want a prospective wife runs around the block before settling down?
Actually I am an american, and already married. I am merely speaking from experience. Even today it the same old, nothing changes. It comes across as trying to have your cake and eat it. Honestly, any sensible man with a working brain would clock her at either gold digger, liar, or potential ex-wife.
All 3 scenarios he loses time and money. Sadly, your 8 years behind the news. With that mentality you have is the reason why non-virgins can never be trusted. Believe it or not, There are more women out there putting off sex until much later. If i had to choose women like you or my wife, I would choose her at any time of the day. It worked for the majority of people for centuries!!!
And it shows the asshole is committed to you. Men dump you after you give them sex, you stupid women. In the old days people would get married after knowing each other for a 3 months. So basically after 3 kids you could get another wife. Where do you people come up with these bogus stats? Wow, waiting until your married. I am sure I am but the only person who experienced this. I no longer believe in keeping your virginity for your husband. It appears that you picked the wrong guy to get married or lack of communication between you and your former husband.
I would say it always good keeping virginity until after marriage. There are too many risks involved before marriage. I need a green light to move forward… Commitment and fidelity is that. But so many play the lie it is hard to tell any more as we have migrated into a population of sociopaths, narcissist amd just broken people.
Good luck all. The Road Less Travelled just got bumpier since I love my husband so much but I could not stop him. I need our marriage to work, I have read countless books on how to please your husband but none worked. I suffered alone with our kids until someone tweet on twitter about how she got his cheating boyfriend back and now they are married. I contacted her on twitter and she told me that I should give. Yeah right, no intimacy? While she blows and screws someone else to get her but off, all the while pretending to be a virtuous martyr in front of you.
GTFO of here with that nonsense. He was having her work and buy him food ,hotel, everything he was a street person, he has nothing it was about sex and his your beautiful baby she apparently has low self esteem he could not even take care of his prior babies deadbeat dad his mother takes care of them. He has been hiding from the law I suspect it was about the child support.
I know she just wants love but why creepy people. Her love should be focused on her babies. She must have a sickness she is bi -polar. I am so very sad…. It is a real shame that most women today are just very horrible altogether, unlike years ago when most women were the very opposite of today. I so get you. My beautiful intelligent daughter has hooked up with Loser 1.
Barely works.. I saw her thru meth addiction and abusive guys…now shes clean 3 yrs…went back got her college degree.. He mooches off her now for over a year.
Shes afraid to be alone and settles for this ass piece of crap. He has 3 kids…who he doesnt support so hes in jail constantly. What the hell? She prefers ghetto type people but wasnt brought up that way…she hung with ghetto rats in high school and cant seem to shake it at 27…meanwhile her brother is premed going into grad school… They had an alcoholic abusive father who I left and put in prison… I guess she hates herself but why?
Im sick I cant shake sense into her. All i do is pray and cry…omg. What this article should be about are the astonishing amount of women who dump amazing, loving, caring men because the parents and girlfriends are always crying about about how their daughter or girlfriend earns more than their boyfriend or husband.
Who the hell cares?!! The sooner we eradicate these gender roles and sexual stereotypes the better. They are totally destructive.
Unless, the guy took temps jobs, laid-off. In America, no jobs are secured and you can be let go at any given time.
The pre arguments no longer valid for post recession era. Women and Men at least here in America knows this. This wont factor in dating relationship. I found much joy reading the comments more than the actual article. I am a confident, beautiful, intelligent woman with a successful career.
Scary right? Let me tell you this powerful men will not wait for sex neither will they waste their precious time listening to a woman. Time is too valuable to them.
On the other hand loser men, we all know why they are. They are the brave ones that you can see from a mile away that have nothing to loose. The list can go on and on. I yet to meet a kind, gentle, funny, intelligent and successful man. So men out there, please stop blaming women for your lack in the relationship you all crave. I am a happy single woman, I like to spoil myself, I love myself and I love my life.
Stop over functioning for him. He feels your energy as begging for love. You will be attractive to him. When he knows you are happy with or without him. Be yourself. It is very upsetting reading many of these stories about women going for loser guys all the time, and most of these guys are most likely very ugly as well on top of it all.
And a good looking guy like me has a job and keeps in shape too, and i still have it very difficult meeting a good woman to date and have a serious relationship with. Rights lining up to marry me! I was always taught that I deserved the world, and that my entire life would fall into perfect harmony any time I wanted it to, including marriage, promptly by the age of There were many men I got involved with during this period of my life.
I wanted action. I wanted excitement and drama. I knew those men never cared about me and only wanted sex, but I gave it to them anyway. Some of them hit me, and a few smashed in my car windows, but whatever. There were a few really great men who came into and out of my life during this period, usually from outside the bar scene. They were men who really cared about me, who were concerned for my well being, and who did the little special things to let me know they cared, but I ignored them.
Every man who came into my life who displayed these positive traits — the kind of traits that could have led to stability and happiness — I rejected. I found them boring. Honestly, I was having too much fun with my lifestyle to ever take notice of the men who actually treated me like a human being. I was addicted to promiscuous sex with bad boys who never loved me. Most of my girlfriends were the same way.
Why settle for a good man before you have to, right?! My looks are fading, and my biological clock is ticking. I am a single mother of one child born out of wedlock to an abusive, no-good father who never loved me or even had a relationship with me.
Not that I wanted a relationship — he was just some guy I met in a bar and I liked how he talked to me like I was dirt. What can I say, it made me hot. Where did all of those good men go? I mean what gives? Is that really too much to ask? Why can I not find a man like this?
Where did all the good men go? Citing your age and experience. That is alot of baggage for good men. If you had to do it over, do it right the first time. In US, we live in a very conservative society and this is what frowns upon. I am married to a girl who never done it with anyone else, grew up with her and have kids.
With modern dating, it very hard to block off the past citing the social network out there. Have you consider it better in a long run to remain single.
Take care of your kids you have now. Good luck. Ring a bell? There are lots of average joe nice guys who would like to go out with you you have to make them notice you. I Probably would have married a girl like you before the child, and before the age of 25, but now? For what? At 29 I can get all the sex I want without having to commit, and I still find myself primarily attracted to women at peak fertility and at their physical peak..
We want a clean foundation to build with. What is going on here? Of course you should have sowed your wild oats when you were in your twenties! I think all these posters are indeed the losers who live in their Mothers basements now! These losers want a woman,sorry,girl,preferably pre pubescent or still inutero who they are not afraid of by their knowing just how bad in bed they are.
Look,the reason you have not met any normal men in the past three years is because,obviously, they are damn hard to find! Listen to this smagma! You have every opportunity for the rest of your life to find a partner. If you want a father,look to your father! Continue to make your own dreams come true. There actually are good men ,not the posters here,obviously,who are also not boring.
The men who lock it down early are boring,uncultured,have no social skills and expect nothing from life,would you want to seal the deal with that? As times goes by,they are learning slowly. As far as your princess shit, if that were true I would have been married 6 times by now.
They reject princesses for tight short shorts and crop top stomachs hanging out, and yes, they marry those women. Your fertility nonsense: All of the ones I knew were scared to get any girl pregnant and then married some fatter woman so they could live off of her salary after they got her pregnant. This new guy in your life is not the father of your son!!!!!!!!!!!!! He can be nothing more than a good friend and mentor to your son. He has only ONE biological dad.
And that is the dad who you copulated with to produce him. They are upstanding, dedicated, outstanding individuals. They are also both guys. I am torn. I believe that marriage is between one man and one woman. What should I do? Dear Confused: I am sure that if your friends knew that you disapprove of their marriage, they would find your presence at their reception an act of hypocrisy. So send your regrets for being unable to attend. And because you will not be a part of the festivities, you are under no obligation to send a gift.
You can bend over backwards trying to rescue this guy, but the only person who can save him is… him. You create imaginary potential in him. Instead of accepting the guy the way he is, you see what he could someday be. Dating someone based on what you hope and wish he will become does not work!
Be realistic. Find the man you want for who he is right now. You like feeling needed. Your deluded, insecure perception of what a relationship should be is the problem.
Figure it out so you can break the co-dependency pattern. No one else wants your man. He has nothing going for him. You can control the situation. When you have the money, the good job, the car, the ambition — well, you hold the reins.
Obviously if there are any signs of domestic violence, then it's a far more serious matter that needs to be managed carefully. Observe the slug pouring himself all over your baby girl.
The baby girl who liked it when you cut her grapes in half. The baby girl who once asked you to help her put her seatbelt on. Strap in. Start with making a little extra room. Let your daughter see how he fits in with your family. See how she is with him.
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